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Unfortunately, many people believe they must be successful in everything they do before others value them. The video emphasizes that regardless of how things may look on the surface, we will all suffer from feelings of inadequacy throughout our lives. 


This is something that cannot be changed. Even though we are successful in many aspects of life, such as academics, careers, social lives, and personal relationships, we may still suffer from time to time from feelings of inadequacy. This may be the case even though we are successful in many aspects of life. 


The voice of our inner critic can sometimes be so loud that it makes it impossible for us to take any action. If we start to think that this false narrative is an accurate portrayal of reality, we risk abandoning the things most important to us.


Suppose we are interested in personal development and building a meaningful existence for ourselves. In that case, we need to find ways to deal with these thoughts before they paralyze us and prevent us from achieving what we genuinely value. The unconscious, more powerful notions that we harbor far exceed the ones that are now present in our conscious awareness. 


Low self-worth is intricately tied to implicit ideas we have come to accept as accurate about the world, others, and ourselves. These beliefs might be about the world, other people, or ourselves.


It is not tricky to console ourselves by telling ourselves that we are hopeful. A tough day, a difficult stretch, or a significant step backward. One misfortune is likely followed by another. Plus another, then still another additional one. When faced with challenges that were not anticipated, one could experience feelings of panic, concern, and helplessness. 


On certain days, one has nothing positive to contribute. Without inspiration, it is impossible to be creative. The abrupt development of profound self-doubt may be pretty debilitating.

In any event, the video can demonstrate that things might take a different path in the future. 


After all, the life's goal is not to achieve perfection but to come to terms with the fact that developing into the person they were always meant to be is a continuous process. He makes the point that when we are under pressure, it is far simpler to forget all of our many charming traits. 


Most individuals will devote their whole lives to pursuing self-improvement, only to reach the conclusion of their life and declare, "I am still not content." There is no way to buy happiness or alleviate the emptiness that so many go through; none of these things can be purchased. 


The fact that there is always an emptiness in one's heart until one accomplishes or obtains anything concrete is the primary contributor to the unsatisfying nature of life.

Because we were under the impression that acting out was the only way to win the attention of our parents and classmates when we were younger, we carried that belief into adulthood and continued to engage in risky conduct. 


Every new day comes with a new set of challenges, but if we allow ourselves to get overwhelmed by the weight of those challenges, we will slide into sadness. We must constantly look for opportunities to rejoice and celebrate daily. Since we do not have a "pause" button, it is difficult for me to relax and decompress. Even while we can only make educated guesses on how to deal with our feelings, we should not let that stop us from trying.


The situation is the same with today's young people when they are at school. There is a possibility that some adolescents cannot cope on their own with the strain of academic pressure and the worry caused by the uncertainty about future careers and educational chances. Although it is admirable that parents want the best for their children, their actions are making it more challenging for their children to concentrate on their homework and approaching examinations.


There will be periods of serenity interspersed among the ups and downs and steep inclines that seem to go on forever. However, the journey will not be without its challenges. When we are at the top looking down and can see our future, all the hills that we are going to come to, and the pauses along the way that we will have to make, the secret is to savor the trip down to whatever comes next, allowing to feel free and so, so alive. 


Nevertheless, stress is inevitable in some areas of life, and most people will encounter it at some point. Efforts are usually rewarded with better outcomes and compensation. However, exerting undue pressure can have disastrous consequences; we should all exercise caution in what we say and do since our words and deeds can have far-reaching effects on others.

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